恶人谷

话说我今儿上班晚了，来不及听书，随手又拧开我们这儿的public radio，正好听到在谈Facebook，听众和主持都在围绕新的internet social network对人们生活的影响来发言，基本论调有几个, direct relation between facebook and the increasing narcissism; facebook makes people feel more lonely instead of more social;facebok does not help in developing social skills, instead the more you use the more you are lack of this skills.
这些基本算是老生常谈，其实不用听，单看facebook是什么人创办的大约就能得出这个结论来。
等我到了办公楼，快停车的时候嘉宾忽然有句发言，说的是，Generally in your life the more you value something, the more likely you will be good at it. If you value your grades more, you will most likely get good grades. But contradictory happiness does not happen the same way. The more you try to be happy, the less likely you feel happy.（大意）
如此警句，简直整个掀翻了整整一个self help书的行业嘛，我犹犹豫豫的又听了一阵子，嘉宾基本上还是在举例重复这个说法，我只好熄火下车了。

I've heard of this theory as well, and recently, but not as recent as last week. The more you work hard for happiness, the more you can't get it. Or something like that. But I cannot remember exactly where I heard it.

这哲学听着蛮东方的。

sigh, happiness is way overrated.

有道理，许多非常幸福的人自己根本没有有意识地追求过幸福。

是不是觉得不幸福的人才会努力追求幸福，这本身已经注定追求幸福不会成功了？

The same goes for relaxation, or sleep.

This is why I give basically no credibility to "happiness" research based on rating scales. How do you feel today? Rate from 0 to 10.

Happiness is worth studying, but not the way we think or do right now.

Jun wrote:The same goes for relaxation, or sleep.

我就是从某人老是放松不了自己睡不好觉才推理出幸福问题也是同样的逻辑的。

某人连给娃儿喂个饭都觉得很紧张。唉，我真不知道过日子还有啥能让他觉得不紧张的了。

Jun wrote:This is why I give basically no credibility to "happiness" research based on rating scales. How do you feel today? Rate from 0 to 10.

Happiness is worth studying, but not the way we think or do right now.

happiness这个东西，定义太广泛太粗糙，一个人的rate=5 happiness可能是另一个人的rate=1 happiness，根本没办法量化，怎么学习。

绝对值不能量，delta还是可以量的。比方说什么因素可以使人感觉更幸福。
好多时候幸福就是没有烦恼，好比舒服的鞋子走路不觉得它存在。偶尔新鲜刺激提神醒脑，即使现有鞋子全都舒服合脚，夏天到了也需要买双舒服又美丽的新鞋高兴一下。

要是把这里的鞋子换成“男人”或“女人”。。。。

Knowing wrote: 好多时候幸福就是没有烦恼，好比舒服的鞋子走路不觉得它存在。偶尔新鲜刺激提神醒脑，即使现有鞋子全都舒服合脚，夏天到了也需要买双舒服又美丽的新鞋高兴一下。

Your inner wsn is coming out,

鞋子对人没有要求，男人对女人，女人对男人，却挑剔多了。结论，不如买鞋。

问题主要是鞋子总能给人带来质朴的纯粹的纯洁的简单的快乐。而男人女人都不行。

男人女人也可以，如果你把他们当做鞋子（之一）.