Page 1 of 1

[zz] New York Times: The Price of Marriage in China

Posted: 2013-03-11 7:37
by Jun
http://www.nytimes.com/2013/03/10/busin ... rkets.html
FROM her stakeout near the entrance of an H & M store in Joy City, a Beijing shopping mall, Yang Jing seemed lost in thought, twirling a strand of her auburn-tinted hair, tapping her nails on an aquamarine iPhone 4S. But her eyes kept moving. They tracked the clusters of young women zigzagging from Zara to Calvin Klein Jeans. They lingered on a face, a gesture, and then moved on, darting across the atrium, searching.

“This is a good place to hunt,” she told me. “I always have good luck here.”

For Ms. Yang, Joy City is not so much a consumer mecca as an urban Serengeti that she prowls for potential wives for some of China’s richest bachelors. Ms. Yang, 28, is one of China’s premier love hunters, a new breed of matchmaker that has proliferated in the country’s economic boom. The company she works for, Diamond Love and Marriage, caters to China’s nouveaux riches: men, and occasionally women, willing to pay tens and even hundreds of thousands of dollars to outsource the search for their ideal spouse.

In Joy City, Ms. Yang gave instructions to her eight-scout team, one of six squads the company was deploying in three cities for one Shanghai millionaire. This client had provided a list of requirements for his future wife, including her age (22 to 26), skin color (“white as porcelain”) and sexual history (yes, a virgin).
这一篇纽约时报的报道跟踪了两个经济极端的案例,一个是超级挑剔的富商挑少女,另一个是没房没身份的打工者找女友。

Re: [zz] New York Times: The Price of Marriage in China

Posted: 2013-03-12 8:02
by Judy
穷小子找媳妇难,都还在意料之中,富豪征婚,整个过程操作得很规范,但也太难堪了,简直就是保持纯种狗马血统的交配过程。这个富豪就这么低调,低到连掘金娘子都摸不到他?

Re: [zz] New York Times: The Price of Marriage in China

Posted: 2013-03-12 9:04
by Jun
这话说出来有点矫情哈,不过我觉得那个富商挑老婆的手法真的是很愚蠢无聊而且糊涂。如果只是为了传宗接代,谈什么,借个肚皮生儿子就好了么。如果只想 have sex,到妓院里随便挑处女加美女。如果只是为了找个好女人结婚,挑处女挑容貌不如挑家世背景,挑个政治背景强的有靠山还可以方便往上爬。如果是为了享受跟美女谈恋爱的感觉,千挑万选挑了一个再谈,完全享受不到跟好几个人恋爱,互相试探的感觉,以及可能被拒绝的刺激感,闷死了。

大概有些男人就跟 Dick Cheney 一样的脾气,只享受把鸡鸭圈起来打猎这种十拿九稳的事儿,ego 脆弱得一碰就碎,宁可牺牲未知和多样带来的刺激兴奋感。

Re: [zz] New York Times: The Price of Marriage in China

Posted: 2013-03-12 10:16
by tiffany
你们说这座金山会不会丑得惊天地泣鬼神,掘金小娘都受不了了?我完全没有看报道的猜测说。 :mrgreen:

Re: [zz] New York Times: The Price of Marriage in China

Posted: 2013-03-12 11:33
by Judy
没错,就是觉得这个富商非常奇怪,要一切尽在掌握中,但又要约会和出外旅游的形式,度了个假回来,还说是纯洁的关系,呃!

我虽然不是有钱人,可架不住硅谷有钱人多啊,看过猪跑啊,看过最有钱的是上了福布斯点金榜的,人家中年阿叔追起女朋友来,也是很有冲劲很有情调的,完全不是这么克格勃手法的。

Re: [zz] New York Times: The Price of Marriage in China

Posted: 2013-03-12 11:38
by 笑嘻嘻
也许人就好克格勃这口。

Re: [zz] New York Times: The Price of Marriage in China

Posted: 2013-03-12 11:57
by Knowing
有钱人太变态了!惊骇的说~~~~

Re: [zz] New York Times: The Price of Marriage in China

Posted: 2013-03-12 12:57
by 豪情
人就是没时间/懒得费力气。社会分工不就这么来的么。创造就业。

Re: [zz] New York Times: The Price of Marriage in China

Posted: 2013-03-12 14:43
by Knowing
约会跟做菜一样,不享受过程,不愿意在这上面花时间的人是做不好的。他百分之九十九是个没浪漫情趣的男友和丈夫。要非常懂得欣赏工作美的女性才会爱上他。

Re: [zz] New York Times: The Price of Marriage in China

Posted: 2013-03-12 15:49
by 豪情
人也不要别人爱上他吧。最好是没有恋爱过的,没有比较。

Re: [zz] New York Times: The Price of Marriage in China

Posted: 2013-03-12 19:08
by tiffany
Knowing wrote:约会跟做菜一样,不享受过程,不愿意在这上面花时间的人是做不好的。
小K这话说的我顿然醒悟我估计是做不好菜了

Re: [zz] New York Times: The Price of Marriage in China

Posted: 2013-03-13 2:31
by Knowing
花在吃上的时间也是时间。
你是没见过小时候经常吃罐头,做菜特别特别特别没有SENSE 的人。

Re: [zz] New York Times: The Price of Marriage in China

Posted: 2013-03-13 9:13
by tiffany
好吧,我悄悄的觉得这个也有点儿天生的。良人小时候也没啥吃的 --- 不过也没吃罐头,他老人家就特讲究吃。象我老,眼前有饭就ok,特好养。

不过我们俩做饭都不是特好吃。所以我实在也不该说啥了。 :mrgreen:

Re: [zz] New York Times: The Price of Marriage in China

Posted: 2013-03-20 2:29
by Knowing

Re: [zz] New York Times: The Price of Marriage in China

Posted: 2013-03-20 5:54
by Judy
我朋友发了这个短片给我,片子的风格有点早期默片的搞笑,里面的妈妈很有当年“小小得月楼”里六角头的神采。

http://vimeo.com/26106002 上海的找對象公園

Shanghai love market

Sydney creative Craig Rosenthal launches 'Shanghai Love Market' at Flickerfest 2013

Flickerfest 2013 will premiere a short film written and directed by Sydney creative Craig Rosenthal at Bondi Pavilion as part of Best Australian shorts program No 3 on Monday 14 January at 9pm and Thursday 17 January at 4;30pm.

Rosenthal, currently freelancing at Droga5, wrote Shanghai Love Market after stumbling across a park in Shanghai where anxious parents string up posters trying to find the perfect match for their kids.

Says Rosenthal: "I write ad campaigns for a living but I'm not sure I've got a thing on the thousands of parents who advertise the unique selling benefits of their children on the posters they create."

Re: [zz] New York Times: The Price of Marriage in China

Posted: 2013-03-20 6:45
by Knowing
杭州有一个,在风入松书店,后来吴山公园。共同特点是当事人都不去,父母很急的拿着资料背着孩子去。我中学同学里谁离婚或者从外地回来,父母就会以之要挟孩子相亲--给你介绍的你不去,我就去吴山了。那里据说非常之男方主导,条件好的男方家长很神气的。

Re: [zz] New York Times: The Price of Marriage in China

Posted: 2013-03-20 7:17
by 笑嘻嘻
真。。。中国。结婚生孩子这些事不是当事人个人的事,而是整个家庭一起做的功课,门当户对在这里有第一位的主导地位。简直有点扩大化的冰火里贵族联姻的样子。

这还算正常的。我当年出国的时候,使馆门口老阿姨拿着满是女生照片的相册追问签了证的男生。

Re: [zz] New York Times: The Price of Marriage in China

Posted: 2013-03-20 9:13
by Knowing
我们出国前后还是留美WSN黄金时代的尾巴尖儿呢。大学时候宿舍楼底下有个WS老头,号称为人在美国生物博士年薪五万还不是六万的儿子'找媳妇,一口一个你李哥在美国blah blah ~我们宿舍两姑娘都被纠缠过.

Re: [zz] New York Times: The Price of Marriage in China

Posted: 2013-03-20 12:37
by simonsun
Knowing wrote:杭州有一个,在风入松书店,后来吴山公园。共同特点是当事人都不去,父母很急的拿着资料背着孩子去。我中学同学里谁离婚或者从外地回来,父母就会以之要挟孩子相亲--给你介绍的你不去,我就去吴山了。那里据说非常之男方主导,条件好的男方家长很神气的。
好有趣!等我去探访一记! :mrgreen: