emotions

猫咪头 · Post by **猫咪头** » 2006-12-26 20:45

Mother, who has been battleing cancer for 18 months, passed away peacefully in my arms. A web post mentioning her death had over 400 replies on the first day, loaded with anecdotes from her former students. There are relatives at her funeral crying so hard, that they needed to be cared for, instead of offering any console.

My own sorrow, however, is so deep, it is beyond such celebration.

Is laying emotions out in the open the quickest way to heal? The only way to heal?

ruby · Post by **ruby** » 2006-12-26 20:49

My deepest condolence. Do whatever you feel may be helpful. Big hug.

tiffany · Post by **tiffany** » 2006-12-26 21:01

oh my god
honey
I know u are strong, but u are human too
do find a good time to fall into pieces and mourn your mother
I know what I am going to say is as empty as it gets
but, we are all here for you

and my deepest condolence.
and I hope u can find small comfort in the simple fact that

She is at peace now and forever
and She is incomparably beyond and above us all

Knowing · Post by **Knowing** » 2006-12-26 21:03

It depends on the person. Some feel at peace from knowing their loved one is also deeply loved by many others and what positive influence she has had on many other lives. Some have to hide and heal alone. Which one you are, my deepest condolence. And here is something I found very comforting when I lost my beloved one: "Think what the best thing that person has done for you and try to do it for someone else. Think of the best quality of that person and try to make it part of you. Through you the person lives on, and that's my way of dealing with loss and death."

豪情 · Post by 豪情 » 2006-12-26 21:14

My condolence.
Mourning is the begining of healing. It doesn't necessarily mean you have to lash out in public. Just find a good time and a good place. Also think what a great comfort you have been to your mom.

J · Post by J » 2006-12-26 21:38

wish her peace, and wish you well

-- from one daughter to another daughter

DeBeers · Post by **DeBeers** » 2006-12-26 21:41

poor maomitou. I don't know what to say. But don'y be too hard to yourself. My condolence.
Big hug.

snowy · Post by **snowy** » 2006-12-26 21:41

Very sorry for your loss which can not be compensated by anything. May I sugguest that you try remember all the good time you had with her and rest assured that she is at peace now.

Take care.

Jun · Post by **Jun** » 2006-12-26 23:33

Words cannot express...

You already know what I would suggest.

Give yourself time.

森林的火焰 · Post by **森林的火焰** » 2006-12-27 0:43

For someone, expressing the sorrow, or crying it out, can help to feel where the bottom is.
Take care and let it heal.

CAVA · Post by **CAVA** » 2006-12-27 6:29

There is no quick heal for such a loss. As Haoqing said, mourning is beginning of healing, let your emotions out when you feel the need.

orangetabby · Post by **orangetabby** » 2006-12-27 6:55

My deepest condolence.

js · Post by js » 2006-12-27 7:49

感同身受。
节哀

花差花差小将军 · Post by **花差花差小将军** » 2006-12-27 8:32

I am very sorry to hear about this. Time will not cure but will soothe it. Take care of yourself.

helenClaire · Post by **helenClaire** » 2006-12-27 9:40

Dear Motto, I'm sorry to hear about your loss. Please take care of yourself.

dropby · Post by **dropby** » 2006-12-27 13:21

My deepest condolence, dear Maomitao.

There is no way to heal from this. But time will help you to find your way to survive this and as Knowing suggested, to find your way to have her continue to live as part of your life. And I believe, as a daughter, that's the best you can do for her.

And for now, cry as you want to. I am crying with you.

karen · Post by **karen** » 2006-12-27 15:46

Sorry to hear your mom passed away, after fighting so hard. Take care of yourself and your daughter, and give yourself the time and space to grieve.

qinger · Post by **qinger** » 2006-12-27 21:03

我知道说“节哀顺便”很肤浅。
不过，你妈妈是世界上最爱你的那个人，她一定不希望看到你太难过。只要你幸福地过好每一天，你妈妈会很安慰的。
把她对你的爱传给你的宝宝，一代又一代，就这样延续下去。

icefire · Post by **icefire** » 2006-12-27 22:02

My deepest condolence.

我想你的妈妈也不想自己的儿女太过伤心的罢。我们只能希望人死后是有灵魂的，那我们还有重逢的一天。