[讨论]一个选择
Whoa, this is eerie. Just saw this on today's Washington Post (column: Tell Me About It by Carlyn Hax.
Hi, Carolyn:
I'm in a loving relationship with a wonderful guy. We are both in our 20s and will both be coming up on big moves for school and work in the next couple of years. We talk of the future, and we want to be together . . . but at what point is it okay to start making plans when you don't have a ring on your finger?
Washington
By "ring on your finger," you mean when you barter your free will for a trinket?
He doesn't marry you, you marry each other. I'm loath to turn this into a male-female issue, but rings on fingers go straight there without my help. In a decade of advising, here is a question no man has ever sent me: "Should I wait till we're engaged before I relocate for her?"
It is your life. It was your life before, it is your life now, it will be your life when you do or don't get married. Nobody is telling you otherwise -- except you. He's either committed to you, or he isn't. You're either committed to him, or you're not. You either trust your judgment, or you don't. Stop waiting for someone else's permission to chart the course of your life. Look around. People live like this every day. I'm guessing your boyfriend is one of them.
谢谢if not, 我订了几个news letter，但是感觉理想的工作不多。谨记: 1, never narrow myself down; 2, search as many as possible.
谢谢笑大。问题一下子就清楚明了了。游记的事儿不好意思:oops: ，待我把心放下来，一一整理。
谢谢Karen和蚕，道理上分析，觉得bf比我更成熟理智，对我的态度也挺负责的。就是有时候心里沮丧的时候，觉得他太理智了，好像他爱我完全没有我爱他那么多。:(
Jun, 你说得太对了。可不是，我现在就是想逃避。要回过头来，勇敢面对！
谢谢各位，谢谢谢谢！真的是很有很有帮助。
谢谢笑大。问题一下子就清楚明了了。游记的事儿不好意思:oops: ，待我把心放下来，一一整理。
谢谢Karen和蚕，道理上分析，觉得bf比我更成熟理智，对我的态度也挺负责的。就是有时候心里沮丧的时候，觉得他太理智了，好像他爱我完全没有我爱他那么多。:(
Jun, 你说得太对了。可不是，我现在就是想逃避。要回过头来，勇敢面对！
谢谢各位，谢谢谢谢！真的是很有很有帮助。
那薄如蝉翼的未来，经不起谁来拆。
